Girlie and Jose's Wedding

 
My dear friends in Christ, it is good that you are here today to witness the wedding of the century here at St. Joseph, Spouse of the Blessed Virgin Mary Parish, Banga, Aklan. Though, this is not the kind of the wedding of the century you know, let me explain why this is still fit to be called a wedding of the century.

Most of us, if not all, have attended weddings celebrated twice between two people. Usually, the first was a civil wedding, then followed by the church wedding. There is also an instance that a Catholic was married to a non-Catholic; sometimes they had their first wedding celebrated in the non-Catholic rites, then followed by their wedding in the Catholic Church.

But today, Girlie and Jose are not only celebrating their church wedding in the Catholic Church for the first time. Rather, their first wedding took place at the San Lorenzo Ruiz de Manila Parish, Camaligan, Batan, Aklan. Today’s wedding celebration is but the second time. At the very least, this is how we look at this wedding. But to explain further, in the eyes of the Church, this is not a second wedding. Their wedding in Camaligan, Batan, Aklan is binding once and for all. Their marriage bond was already sealed by God in the celebration of the sacrament of Holy Matrimony. The Church teaches that what God has joined together, let no man put asunder (Mark 10:9) -and thus, the “I do” the promise they made before God and before His Church satisfied the requirements for the sacrament of marriage. If this is so, then why do we have this wedding celebration today between Girlie and Jose? It is because, when they celebrated their wedding in Camaligan, Batan, Aklan, it was a sacrament and was solemnly celebrated according to the rites of the Holy Mother, the Church, excluding the compliance of the legal requirement. The failure to comply with the legal requisites did not destroy the grace already bestowed on Girlie and Jose, but it stood as a barrier for the two to fully express the sacramental life together.

Now, as they have complied with both the essential and formal requisites imposed by the State, today’s wedding celebration removes the barrier so that everybody can fully see what has already been there -a valid marriage. In other words, this is not actually a second wedding. This is somewhat a confirmation and even solemnize the very same promise, the “I do” made years ago. The love of Girlie and Jose does not change. Their commitment does not change. The only change that this celebration brings to Girlie and Jose is that the barrier is gone. Girlie and Jose, your marriage can now stand fully and freely, not only as a sacrament blessed by God but also as a legally binding marital union recognized by the State. You can now bring your one, true, lifelong marriage into the light. You can now say your marriage is fully blessed by God. Amen.

Shainie and Wilfredo's Nuptial

One of the great saints, St. Thomas Aquinas defined love as an act of the will and not merely a feeling. For him, love is to will the good of the other.

Shainie and Wilfredo, when we say will, we can easily connect it with the word power. In our ordinary life experience, we say there is power when we talk of gadgets or technologies which work referring to it as “gumagana”. If we check things out that do not work, we say “bakit ayaw gumana or bakit hindi gumagana.”

Will then as a power to love is what it takes to make a relationship works. However, you have to understand that no one can see your will because it is something that is inside you; it is in your “kalooban”. So no one is interested to see your “kalooban” except for those who love you. Yet, everyone is eager to know the secret why a relationship works –“paano gumagana ang isang relasyon”. The answer for this is simple: If there is a will, there is a way.

But love is not just about willpower. It has to set a direction. Why do we charge our cellular phone? Would it be enough to see it fully charged and could turn its power on? The purpose of loving is not about finding oneself feeling happy with the other. Rather, it seeks the good of the other. Ano bang mabuting gawin ko para sa kanya? Paano ko siya mapapabuti? Paano ba siya maging mabuting tao? Lacking in this good intention, any relationship fails to build itself on true love. True love always makes a couple better.  

Now, in the definition of love, the direction is pointing toward the other, and not to oneself. This does not mean that one does not need to love himself/herself. Rather, how one loves himself/herself shall also be how he/she has to love the other. Shainie, love Wilfredo as you love yourself. Wilfredo, love Shainie as you love yourself. However, as you are going to get married today, you have to get an unlimited source of love which you cannot find in yourself. Human as you are, you have limits in loving. Thus, human love cannot be able to handle the demands and challenges of married life. There is a need to look for the source of love which can sustain the both of you. The answer can be found in the Gospel of John 13:34 which states, “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.”

Shainie and Wilfredo, if you want to remain in love as a married couple, you have to call on God. You have to pray together. You pray for your spouse. If you cannot pray together, then what is the use of getting married in this church. The church is a place for you to ask God for his blessings and not a mere venue for a ritual. You are here to pray. You start your married life with a prayer, you can only stay in marriage until death when you pray together.

Shainie and Wilfredo, love is to will the good of the other. There is no greater good than to be blessed by God. Pray for each other. Pray together. Love each other till the end of your time. Amen.

Leenard Mabasa Cristobal's Funeral Homily

 

Death is certain. No one among us can stop it when it comes. Not even our love for Leenard can stop his death. Neither our words of sympathy nor apology can equal what the family and friends have lost. But Leenard’s name should not be treated lightly by anybody. Though anyone can take his place in this world, he is irreplaceable in the hearts of the people who love him.

Leenard for me is like BDO, he finds ways. In many occasions, Leenard would actively look for ways to help others in need. I remember when someone got an accident, he got out of his way to owe some amount needed for the surgery. He swallowed his pride just to raise fund to save someone’s life.

Leenard for me is like a Nike, if he knows he can do the things assigned to him –“just do it” is his attitude. Many people and even some priests thought before that I was the ghost writer of my mother and my brothers in preparing their speeches. Today, I can say that it was actually Leenard. Even my mother who was good in writing, would ask Leenard to encode her speeches and proofread them. There was a time I criticized him for one of the speeches delivered by my brother, he checked his notes and showed me to point out that part of speech I was talking about. Then I said why I could not find it there. He then justified that the speech he prepared for was just a guide. The speaker could choose either to read it or not to read it.  

Leenard for me is like Shell that bears a slogan, “together anything is possible”. Though this is something private and sensitive but it is good that you become aware of it. In a political exercise, I would say Leenard made the impossible possible. There were voters who would never vote for my brothers, for whatever reasons, yet through Leenard’s effort, it turned out that he was able to convince some of them to vote for my siblings. I learned about this from those people themselves whom Leenard approached.

Leenard for me is also like Petron which bears a slogan, “we fuel success”. At his age and wisdom, he reached the height of his career whether in business or in public service. His success did not come by chance. He worked patiently for it. He earned it. Unknowingly, while success can provide happiness, success can be vulnerable to negative influences, such as envy, competition or evil eyes.

One of my friends from Ibajay said, “Sayang yong kaibigan mo pads, bata pa siya para pumanaw at yong iniwan niyang posisyon sa Human Resource, sayang.” Yes, for many, Leenard was successful at his very young age; but at his age, people forgot he was vulnerable. Between the ages of 40 and 60, there is a transition, there is an emotional change, there can also be the feeling of inadequacy that takes place in one’s heart -especially when others can see all the failures, errors and mistakes but none of the efforts to achieve a goal. In short, the longer you hold success, the heavier it becomes. And when others pushed you beyond your limits while holding a heavier load, and in addition, you are at your fragile, delicate and vulnerable age -you will be broken. Once broken, every expectation will bring you frustration. This is the moment when a person becomes vulnerable in the sense that we can say, he is not himself. This is the reason why we have to be kind to everyone because we never know what someone has been through.

Now, I ask, “Why Lord? Why he was taken too soon?” For me, I wish to say to the Lord that Leenard had so much to give, so much to achieve. But this is only “for me” -my own point of view as an imperfect human being. But how about God? How about His point of view?

My dear friends, God does not measure life by years but by love. The Book of Wisdom (4:7,11) explains how God’s love works as it states:

“But the righteous one, though he die early, shall be at rest. The one who pleased God was loved, living among sinners, was transported -Snatched away, lest wickedness pervert his mind or deceit beguile his soul.”

To the family, be thankful to God in sending Leenard back to his Creator. You have shaped his heart well enough to receive his reward in heaven. To his relatives and friends, let us not consider the death of Leenard as the end of his life. Rather, let us see his death as a promotion from the hard works of this world to a final rest in heaven. To all of us, let us know that even death itself cannot make us blind to see the love of God. No title, no salary, no success is more precious than the soul of Leenard. The soul of Leenard is now in the hand of God and no torment will ever touch him. He now finally rests in peace. Amen.

14th Sunday in OT

 

A wealthy merchant decides to sell his goods in a bustling town by the sea. He travels through different routes—some long and treacherous, others short and safe—carrying exquisite items that he believes will attract many buyers. Each day, he takes a different path, hoping to catch the attention of potential customers. On the other hand, a humble fisherman casts his nets into the sea, bringing in fish that he sells at the marketplace. The fisherman’s journey is simple; he goes straight to the shore, catches fish, and returns to sell them without any elaborate routes or strategies. Despite the merchant’s efforts to impress the townsfolk with his varied routes and the quality of his goods, the people are more interested in the fresh fish that the fisherman consistently provides. They are indifferent to how the merchant arrived or the lengths he went to; they only care about what is immediately available and practical for their needs.

Product strategy comes first in marketing. Buyers are not interested in the route-to-market plan of the seller as long as they get the product they want. Buyers do not go to the marketplace to know about the seller’s conditions. Albeit, traveling salesman does not go from one house to another to tell their personal stories. Both the buyers and the sellers talk about the product.

In our Gospel (Luke 10:1-12, 16-20), Jesus was commissioning his seventy -two disciples not to sell a product but to preach that the kingdom of God it at hand. But who will be interested to listen about the kingdom of God? People who do not care about their souls have no time to entertain such disciples visiting their homes. But with the disciples who stood as witnesses to Jesus, the mission was never impossible. They returned to Jesus rejoicing, and said, “Lord, even the demons are subject to us because of your name.” 

On this 14^th Sunday in Ordinary Time, we, Christians are reminded of our mission to preach that the kingdom of God is at hand. But before we can fulfill this mission, we need to ask ourselves if the kingdom of God has been part of our lives (if not the center of our lives). Because the moment we start preaching of the kingdom of God, we have to deal with the reality of rejection. Not all people are willing to listen to us and about God’s kingdom. On this occasion, we somehow consider ourselves failure and may tend to abandon the mission. This only happens when we are not clear of how important the kingdom of God is in our lives. In other words, we cannot give what we do not have. If we cannot treasure the kingdom of God personally, then how can we be able to convince others to treasure it.